VTK: support conditional depfile specification APIs

Also brings in wrap hierarchy depfile support to avoid spurious rebuilds.

Also brings in a pop out layout crash fix.

• Ben Boeckel: vtkModule-depfile-conditional into paraview/release (vtk/vtk!10708 (merged))
• Ben Boeckel: file-set-dep-backports into paraview/release (vtk/vtk!10710 (merged))
• Thomas Galland: backportFixPopOutLayoutCrash into paraview/release (vtk/vtk!10709 (merged))

Fixes: #22376 (closed)

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Cc: @jschueller @cory.quammen @thomas.galland @mwestphal